How far is too far? and who's fault is it anyway?

Well this subject matter actually came to me during this weekend's randevu with a few of my lady friends. We had all decided to hang out and go to a local lounge to have a few drinks, chit chat, and possibly dance. As usual we set out to have a great time at a lounge. It wasn't very big, but perfect for what we were attempting to accomplish with this particular Saturday night. Most of the young ladies that are my friends are in their early to mid twenties and are not single. I can't really speak for them but I've become more apprehensive on going to events such as these for many reasons but the main one is; disgusting drunk men who think it is more than acceptable to grope on whatever comes through the door. My friends and I wanted to make our way to the outside (quieter) patio, but in order to do this we had to of course go through a massive crowd of drunken people. We held hands and made our ways through the crowd without trying to draw any attention to us. what do you know? Men from all sides called us all sorts of things, grabbed at our hair and touched any parts they could. If you are a woman or possibly a man, then you know what I'm talking about. The dreaded crowds of men who as you make your way across the dance floor call you things like sexy or shorty, then proceed on actually groping you or grabbing your wrist demanding you dance with them. Why is it that we sometimes ignore that behavior or dismiss it in order to go about our day without it ending in you slapping someone in the face for devaluing you? I think that we as women (men too) have come to accept this never ending belief that "boys will be boys". Why do we laugh it off? Is it because its the only thing to do when we know deep in our hearts this type of behavior will always exist in some form? Whether people verbalize it or not if we can be truly honest with ourselves I think we can come to realize that there is this underlying sexual harassment by men on an everyday basis that we feel powerless to. The "cat" calling, the " I want to sex you eyes", and the physical gestures or assaults we take on a day to day basis is something that needs to become unacceptable. Living as a woman I've at come to see things in a much different way than perhaps other women or men. Life is hard enough as it being a second class citizen in your own country, but to have to deal with the sexism of mainstream America and the constant sexualizing of our bodies is even harder. Because it right in your face, everyday. Things in this country and in many others (as we shall discuss and bring up in other posts) have gone too far. Women can no longer feel comfortable in their own skins, we don't feel protected like men, and its a scary world. Who's fault is it ? Is it men? Is it women? Both? Or is it something that is a product of something much bigger? In this blog we will attempt to answer many questions such as these and discuss topics that aren't always talked about. I would really like many to comment and respond (whatever your opinion is). All that I ask is for no negativity! This blog was created for intellectual stimulation and for women to have a forum where they can feel safe to discuss issues that concern them. If you do try and write something demeaning and disrespectful I will report you. Thank you and much love to all. Women keep your heads up, your fists higher, and those hearts lifted. It can be a different world if we want it to be.