So it seems to me that since the beginning of time the whole dating/love scene for women is sorta; crazy. To be frank, I think we settle too often. We'll (not all OKAY) allow people to do and say whatever they please long as they stay because we can't stand to be alone. A woman on her own?! What the hell is wrong with that ?!?!?! I believe it has a lot to do with our society that tells us since we were basically toddlers that everything will be alright after finding a man. "The knight in shining armor" complex has (for centuries) been this cruel ideal that we are supposed to wait around until Mr. Right comes along our way, and all will be right in the world. Then after playing the field a bit, we realize this game is either rigged or somehow impossible. We become dependent on it, we breathe it, eat it, and cry ourselves to sleep with it.
Its taken over our minds ladies and let me tell you the secret of all secrets; THERE IS NO MR. PERFECT! You will never find a man or woman (whatever floats your boat) that will be unflawed and sent from the gods. We shouldn't waste our times with this foolish notion of being rescued by some shirtless sexy guy. Nope, not going to happen. yea I know I basically ruined every little girl's dream. Truth is, is that we as girls and women must make a name for ourselves in this world. We must shine brightly, set out goals, and motivate ourselves to push forward through the rough patches. I believe there is somebody for everybody, but to revolve your entire existence upon it is very Cinderella or Snow White of you. Get a damn life!You need to make you happy first.
Waaaait- so you're saying I'm not in fact a Greek God?!? Sent from Mt. Olympus to heal you of all your aching wounds? (I kid, :-P)
ReplyDeleteSo, so, so damn true mi amor. You evoke alot of passion here, because it's the honest fucking truth...you will never find a 'perfect love' or perfect partner, and those who wait around for it are just going to fool themselves into being lonely forever. Get out there, fuck up, find someone who is supportive of you, accepts all YOUR flaws, and loves you unconditionally. Then the two of you can work all your problems out and not 'find the Prince Charming' then have everything end with a Disney soundtrack playing while you ride off into the sunset.
This was a wonderful, wonderful read- I love hearing you speak passionately about things that need be said.
As much as this probably crushed many womens dreams -- it is so true. We tend to settle for less aka Mr. Right Now or whatever man shows us enough attention or we think were "in-love" with even though he might treat us worse then the gum underneath his shoe - we stick around because we think that's what we deserve or that's how it's supposed to be because of examples we've had in our lives growing up. And I myself used to be "one of those girls" sadly - let a man talk down to me and emotionally & physically abuse me and I stuck around for years because i was so "in-love" and "thought I'd be the one to make him change" - and only once I lost my mom and felt what REAL pain and heart break was did I change. The pain of losing my mom, my best friend, my everything was unlike any pain I had ever or hopefully will ever feel in my entire life. And it made me realize that "HE AIN'T SHIT" - then I started living my life for ME & MY daughter of course. And what do ya know? A few months later when I wasn't even looking for it - love smacked me in the face! My mom put an amazing man in my life when I wasn't even looking for it. And I've been happy ever since. He's not a night in shining armor but he's my Mr. Perfect and is def the love of my life - I know that all the pain and suffering I went through was only to make me strong enough to make it to him and be able to fully appreciate everything that he is in my life. So basically the moral of the story is - smarten up ladies, you don't NEED a man to survive, you can do it on your own 2 big girl feet ! And when your doing your thing and handling yours - what's meant to be will always find it's way.
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